Whether you are newly married or you have been married for a long period, it is not too early and it is not too late for you to do this. The home you built is where you will reside for the rest of your life. The beauty and structure of the house now depends on what the owner wants. The beauty of your marriage lies in your hand. Building a befitting home comes in stages. Let’s look at the stages.

After you have allowed the master planner and architect to design the best structure (getting and marrying the right partner), the next thing is:

The Foundation

Everyone knows that the most crucial aspect of a home is the foundation. Your foundation has to be strong, reinforced and stronger for a story building. Building a foundation with sand means destruction and building it on a rock, with a rock makes it extraordinarily strong and firm. Jesus is that rock that will make your home to withstand any form of rain, wind (challenges/circumstances). “Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain”. Psalm 127:1 (RSV).

Look at this too: “Another foundation can no man lay than that which is laid which is Christ Jesus”. 1 Corinthians 3:11 (RSV)

Family devotion comes in here. A family that prays, seek God’s face together, is the family that stands and no wind can blow away. Jesus is the foundation on which you can build your home, career, business and life.

Stage 2:

The Wall

After laying the foundation which is Jesus, you have to play a role in adding walls to the foundation.


Lack of communication can crumble a home if care is not taken. Raising accusations and blaming on simple things that can be handled with love can break communication. Most times, we feel that we are not communicating while we are communicating loudly. Your silence in the home may mean something else to your partner. (You see, you are communicating- negative impression). You need to erect a strong wall of communication in your home to bring openness between you and your partner and straighten any form of malformation.

Build the wall of trust

Trusting each other in marriage is very crucial in making a home stand. You have to develop the attitude of trusting your partner. When there is no trust, you will start to suspect every action and movement of your partner. Build trust in your marriage to sustain your home. If there is anything that is causing distrust, settle it amicably within yourselves.

Be Flexible

Be sensitive to each other’s need, understand and be patient with your partner.

The Roof

The roof caps the building. Love caps it all. Cap your home with this important aspect. When love dwells in your home, no matter what anyone says concerning your partner, no matter the situation you are going through. Love will hold you. “Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong but rejoices in the right” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (RSV).

Live in Unity


Try to break a broom stick, it breaks into pieces. Pick a bunch of broom and break it. You cannot break it because the sticks are united. Be united; don’t allow anything to separate you. A UNITED FAMILY STAYS TOGETHER. THEY ARE INSEPARABLE. “And if a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand” Mark 3:25.


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