How to rebuild trust in marriage
Trust in marriage is necessary for any marriage to thrive and remain worthwhile. We are aware of the things that can lead to distrust in marriage. It could be lying to each other concerning an issue which was later detected by your partner or having an affair outside the marriage, constant contact with an ex and so on. All this things must not be heard in the home. These issues can have negative impact on the children and the family.
Rebuilding trust takes time, it cannot happen overnight. Both partners will need to work it out to make it successful.
Things you can do to rebuild trust:
Ask for forgiveness
When you have truly realized the extent of what you have done, seek God’s forgiveness and prayerfully seek your spouse’s forgiveness.
Although, building trust goes a long way but you can start from here.
Put an end to deception
Stop those lies. Call a spade a spade. Be honest with your spouse. Anytime you overspend on an item, inform your spouse. Anytime you did not do what you said you’d do, be honest about it. White lies kill marriage gradually. Tell your spouse about where you went, whom you discussed with or talked to. Be open and get connected to your spouse.
“Change” Give it a chance
What happened may have affected you so much to the extent of withdrawing from your partner and you have decided never to trust again. Don’t give up. Give your spouse another chance to earn your trust to restore your marriage. Are you contemplating divorce? Divorce is not good. God hates divorce. It has a negative impact on children and family. Give change a chance and mend that broken or “about to break” marriage.
Rebuilding trust in marriage requires time and the length of time is dependent on the extent of an offense. A small lie of omission may just take some days to die down whereas; an affair may take a bit more time to die down fully.
In all this things, be prayerful and trust in the Lord with all your heart. Do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path (Proverbs 3:5-6). “In God have I put my trust, I will not be afraid what man can do to me” (Psalm 56:11).